Why I Don’t Want You to Kill Yourself … and Neither Should You 🙏❤
“It gets better,” they say.
And if you think they are lying, I will tell you first hand, they aren’t.
I’ll tell you it get’s better. From the absolute bottom of my heart I will tell you it gets better. But most importantly, I need you to believe that’s true.
You need to hear the whole truth:
For the rest of your life, you will continue to experience hard times, people will continue to hurt you, and you will occasionally fail. But the game changer is, YOU ARE going to learn how to deal with it all. So if you hang in there and put in a good fight, it WILL get better.
The whole truth is, you are going to learn how to find good friends. You are going to find and practice something you are good at. You are going to learn how to love yourself for who you are.
So maybe the whole truth is not that it gets better, but that YOU get a hell of a lot better at dealing with it. 💪🧠
You might need help to get your feet off the ground – that’s ok. Help comes in many different forms: from reading to journaling, social workers to doctors, from family to friends, from yoga to prayer, and even from medicine to weekly counseling. You might need to take a weekend off and spend it with yourself. And you might need to learn how to say “no” to people you love. But I promise, the small sacrifices you make will be worth it in the end. Because in the end you’ll be happy to be alive.
And if you still aren’t buying my plead for your life, let me tell you my “life got better” story:
Every single night for as long as I can remember, I’ve said my prayers before bed. And every single night for as long as I can remember, I asked God to “please bless every person around the world with a long, happy, and healthy life.” And then the kicker — after asking for the best for others, I’d always ask him to let me fall asleep and never wake up. [FYI, I still say my prayers every night. And FYI I dropped the second part from my nightly prayers last year.]
Sad (and slightly embarrassing) to say, I spent a lot of years hoping the worst for myself. And after 23 years of life, I’d still wake up in the morning and ask myself why I was still f***ing living. I started to think, what the hell was so wrong with me that (1) I didn’t know how to live happily and (2) I was still living …?
It took me until age 23 to finally ask somebody for some help. And even though most of me was miserable, a tiny incremental part of me was saying “YOU CAN DO IT”.
I had lots of friends, a great education, a superb family, a sick job, and basically a sweet friggin life. I recognized all of that! So why the hell was I still unhappy?
It was only when I started researching about the brain that I realized I was missing a major ingredient: I never believed it could get better.
I never believed it. Yes, I put in the work to have a sweet life…that helped. But I didn’t believe it was reality. I always thought, “well it’s been a great week. That means a bad day is right around the corner.”
I was not doing myself any favours.
It was like this:
Imagine you have a delicious plate of food in front of you. You have not taken a bite yet, but the food was prepared by a famous chef. Everyone knows it will taste good, including the chef. But you tell yourself it will taste horrible, so you refuse to eat it.
Why? … It’s because you primed your brain with negativity which stopped you from trying the food with an open and objective mind.
How many times have you primed your brain with something negative, which in turn altered your behaviour? You know, like if your friend tells you, “I don’t like that person”. Then you meet the person for the first time and you already dislike them. Or you read a bad review on a movie, so you go into the theatre already assuming you won’t like the movie.
Or in my case, I assumed I life was never going to get better so my attitude towards my life never changed.
Habits often begin with a simple belief – a simple daily prime of your brain to help you believe life will get better. If you believe it will never get better, it will never get better. But if you believe it will get better because you will try to make it better, you’re golden.
Now, when I look back at my sad years, I’m not sure what to make of them. Maybe I’m just an extra sensitive or emotional person. Maybe I have issues with serotonin and other hormones. But regardless, I’ve come to learn that my über emotional personality is not a bad thing.
Just like I did and many others have, you will have to work hard to be happy. But one day you’ll realize the hard work paid off.
I want you to live, work hard, find meaning, and learn to love existence. I want you to do all those things. And I want you to want all those things too.
After years upon years of not thinking I could do it, I actually did it. And you can do it too. I swear on my life that I love so much, YOU CAN F***ING DO IT.
I don’t want you to kill yourself. And neither should you❤.
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