How to tailor your habits (without wasting your time)
Happy New Year all and welcome back to my blog, today I am going to teach you how choose which habits to instill and which to break as we enter the new year. The reason I am writing this post is because I am all about helping you figure out how to optimise your habits, not what to optimise.
If you’re new here, welcome, my name is Ella and I help you retrain your brain! If you don’t know anything about me yet, back in 2008 I survived a hemorrhagic stroke and a slew of mental health struggles before and after that. It took me until 2018 to start turning that rock bottom feeling I had into my breakthrough and I have not looked back since. Now, I post videos every other Sunday teaching you how to turn your rock bottom into your breakthrough. If you don’t want to miss any up coming videos, make sure you subscribe and hit the notification bell below. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram where I am more active day-to-day.
This video was inspired by a blog post on a website called http://www.waitbutwhy.com – big shout out to that site! In this one blog post called Life in Weeks, which breaks down the years of your life into blank spaces. To give you an example, if you are 20 years old, you lived filled in 20 blank spaces of your life. If you live until 85, you still have 65 blank spaces to be filled in.
Then, the question becomes, how do you fill in those blank spaces?
Let’s say one of your goals is to read more this year. And you already have a shelf of books you have to get through plus about 100 more on your Goodreads “want to read” shelf. Well, if you look at the past few years of your life and you determined that you read 2 books a year, you’ll only be able to read, on average, another 130 books in your life time (65 blank spaces x 2 books).
So now what? Well you don’t have choose the 130 books right now, in fact I’d discourage that. But know this information will make you think more strategically about your book choices, when you pick up a new one.
Maybe, in order to optimize your learning, you realize reading a book is not going to be most helpful to you. For example, in my life over this past year, I realised I need to spend more time reading academic publications to get more up-to-date, first-hand, and tactical information about the brain and habit.
OR maybe one of your goals is to improve your diet. well let’s say you eat 2 meals a day. That means you’ll eat, on average, another 730 meals per year and, if you live another 65 years, you’ll eat, on average, another 47, 450 meals. That may seem like a lot now, but keep in mind that every time you eat a bad meal, you’ve lost the opportunity to eat something healthy.
When you measure your life in a quantifiable and objective manner, you create a sense of urgency for achieving your goals.
If you don’t know what your goals are yet, I have 3 steps on how you can figure them out:
1) Life Audit
Follow the steps in this post here to objectively audit your behaviour and determine what can be improved. The post I refer to gives you a detailed plan for consistently assessing six main facets of your life. Be sure to check it out and let me know if it is helpful!
2) Warren Buffet 5/25 Goals
Warren Buffett recommends you write down the top 20-25 goals you want to achieve in your life. Then, you circle the top 5 goals in that list. Your plan now is to focus on achieving those top 5 goals and disregard the other 20. I’ve used this myself and it is a great way to narrow down what you want in life.
3) Habit Coaching
As a habit coach, my job is to help you tailor your micro-behaviour to help you achieve your short-term goals quicker. You can sign up for 1:1 coaching and check-out my self-paced habit course by clicking here!
Don’t forget to check-out http://www.waitbutwhy.com!
And if you do check them out, comment on one of their posts telling them I sent you:) If you found this post helpful, don’t forget to like it by clicking the button below and then share it with at least one friend.
As always, I hope you have a great day and don’t forget to make 2021 the #YearofYou