10 Ways I Retrained my Brain (Part 2 of 2)
Breakthrough. That’s what I created for myself over the past couple years, and I did that using these 10 tips.
If you want to create your own rock bottom to breakthrough transformation, try making these changes in your life. And if you missed last week’s post on the first 5 tips, make sure you check out that post by clicking here.
#6 – Music cleanse
There was a point in my life where I noticed I became hypersensitive to negativity because my mood baseline was so low. So sad movies, sad music, sad story were unbearable for me. And unfortunately, because I felt sad all the time I also gravitated towards these sad movies, songs, and stories.
At the time I convinced myself these made sense because I wanted to be in alignment (sad mood, consume sad media). But the problem was, the more sad media I consumed, the sadder I became; I was created a state of perpetual sadness. So I detoxed from media. I stopped listening to all music to naturally reset my mood and then, like a reverse elimination diet, I gradually brought back in the music that made me feel good.
I found this technique to be incredibly helpful to reset my mood. So if you try it, let me know.
#7 – I started doing things because I didn’t want to do them
I started saying “yes” to trying new things. This tip really helped me become more open minded.
For example, I don’t why do workout today. Why not? …no reason. Okay let’s do it.
I don’t think that new diet will work. Why not? … not sure. Okay now I’m going to try it.
I don’t want to go skydiving Why not?… heights are scary, but maybe I’ll like it if I try it! (okay so I haven’t gone sky diving yet. But it is unfortunately on my bucket list LOL)
So the next time you don’t want to do something, use that as your cue to try it out. You might like it and that might make you happy. And if you don’t like it, at least you can say you did it and you don’t have to do it again.
#8 – I always make sure I have some free time in my day
I expend a lot of energy trying to love my life and bringing up my mood baseline – I need time to do that. I never used to give myself time to recharge.
I love making lists and I love being productive, but I took this love too far in the past when I started scheduling every second of my day (even if that meant missing sleep!)
Eventually this over-scheduling led to burn out. I needed to figure out how to be productive without burning out!
That when, with the help of a lovely psychologist, I realized I needed time to recharge. I needed self-care time to de-stress and be at peace. So now I make sure I have nothing to do for a little bit every single day. When that point in my day comes, I either choose to keep working because my Ella batteries are already charged, I will engage in a fun hobby to take my mind off some thing, or I spend time with my own thoughts and allowing new ideas to come to light, (or I watch Friends – okay I’m obsessed, I’ll admit it!)
I think most of us spend way too much time being stimulated by people and technology that we forget to give our brains down time. Doing this has also helped me sleep better. See my only down time used to be right before bed, so when the time came and the stimulation stopped, my mind would think and think and keep me up all night. Instead, give your thoughts some attention throughout the day.
#9 – I started expecting negativity in my life.
I lot of us want to avoid bad things. I did too. It doesn’t work.
No matter what you choose to do in my life, somebody is always going to have something to say about it. You can’t control other people’s thoughts and actions.
Since I started expecting that someone will say something negative about/to me no matter what decisions I make, I’ve become much more confident in doing what I want. It’s like that quote from Marilyn Monroe,
You can be the ripest juiciest peach in the world, but someone out there is still not going to like peaches.-Marilyn Monroe
As soon as I adopted this new mindset, I became braver when making decisions about putting myself in the public eye (for example: being brave enough to start a blog and a YouTube channel).
I’m actually going to do a post in the future about the importance of being braver instead of being less fearless. So if you don’t want to miss-out on that, don’t forget to subscribe!
#10 – I stopped believing I had a mental health problem.
If you watched this video right here and read this blog post right here then you know how important belief is in your life. My problem was not that I didn’t believe in myself, but that I believed in other things that were holding me back in life
Sooo… I had to UN-believe those things that were holding me back.
That meant I had to un-believe that I was (1) depressed (2) stupid because of my brain injury.
And now that I can look back specifically at my rehab after my brain injury, the reason that I rehabilitated so quickly is because 12 years ago, nobody really explained to me so that I could fully understand, that I had a serious brain injury and I would get things like neuro-fatigue or have some lasting changes in my brain.
I knew I felt different when it came to my cognition which is where the “I’m stupid” belief came in. But there were no professionals or people validating that belief. And therefore I didn’t fully believe that I was suffering the side-effects of a brain injury or stroke.
It’s like the power of association. Once you know something exists, it’s much easier to recognize it. Like if you have a cold so you go to the doctor and the doctor says you also have an ear infection. Only then will you start to notice pain in your ear. Or if you think you have a fracture in your arm, you might notice a lot of pain. But then you go for an x-ray and it turns out you only have a bruise… now you might stop recognizing pain in your arm.
Our minds are so incredibly powerful because they can create self-fulfilling prophecies. And if you want to know the details of the self-fulfilling prophecy loop and 3 ways to break it, then make sure you click this link here or click “play” on the video below!
I hope you try out these tips. And if any of them help you too, please let me know.
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